K Calling

10:45 pm

And the phone rang.I was half asleep after a long and tiring day at office.Anyways, getting back to the phone call.

Reluctantly, I answered the call( as it was from an unknown number). It was K(the guy, my friend wanted to set me up with) For details click here. He introduced himself and asked if it wasn't too late to call.For the sake of courtesy(or whatever you may call it...And FYI, I find it really difficult to say No, even to strangers) I said it was okay and asked him to continue.

And soon ,it was more than an hour since I was on the phone.I am a complete chatterbox, and it is quite impossible to shut me up, once you get me started(provided, I don't lose interest in you). He never asked me any silly questions which other perspective grooms ask, and maybe I got too comfortable too soon. Talking to him was like talking to a friend. We had a few common topics to chit-chat about,maybe because we come from the same 'small -town' and we both lived in Delhi, sometime. Though his love for 'Saadi -Dilli' could not match mine! We tried to get to know each other, and by the time the phone call ended, I had created a certain kind of image in my mind and associated him with it! And mind you, most of the time, I judge people correctly!

Meanwhile, all these days, our common friend, V was trying to persuade to me to talk about K, to my parents.And being the sidhi-saadhi-sharmili-gharelu kanya that I am, I was avoiding that(okay okay, I am nothing even close to all those adjectives, but I just did not want to strike that conversation, so that my folks don't start feeling that I am really really interested in getting married asap.So,suggesting a guy, would have meant committing a sin).But, then I believed that it would be better if I told them myself, at least it would be better than getting to know from V or her mom( V's mom was getting into match-making mode)

So, I told my folks ,and for a moment, they were over-excited that finally I have chosen a guy for myself! But, they calmed down when I told them the whole story! And as Murphy would have it, V's mom bumped into mine,at the local vegetable market.And rest is history.

They met, and then my folks and K's folks had a telephonic conversation.Everything was fine except that they asked "How long will Runaway Bride continue with her job?"

All Over!

My judgement was correct, K wants to settle down in the 'small town' with his family.And Runaway Bride works for a corporate giant which doesn't operate from any of the so called small towns.Although she doesn't love her job, but she has no plans to quit and become a loser house-wife.(No offence meant to any of the great ladies who have chosen to be perfect home-makers)

And Thats How I Met Mr V

No, The phone call I was talking about in the last post did not happen at all, because yours truly was very buzy hunting for a new job.Unfortunately, no luck yet :( There is something in me which stops me from trying to concentrate on more than one thing, at the same time.Maybe it is the gyaan which one of my teachers at college gave, that never start a new job and a new marriage, at the same time, coz in most of such cases, people tend to screw one of those things!

So, all in the mood of job hunt, I conveniently switched Mr K(from the previous post) to the backseat and never indicated the need of a conversation.I was too buzy doing whatever I thought was the right thing to do, given the circumstances I am in.

And suddenly, Mr V pops into my life. I get a call from my dad saying that Mr V is the best guy on earth and he would be a perfect match( According to him, there were a dozen perfect matches, whom I didn't even find eligible to even talk to, for that matter) Anyways, I agreed to talk to him, on the condition,he calls me first. (As per dad, Mr V is a shy guy). But he called me and we decided to meet. The worst part, he works for the same organization that I do, and that meant, we would be meeting in office the next day.No excuses :(

The next day, Mr V was very buzy...He smsed me that probably we can meet another time.I was neither happy nor sad about it, I was comfortably numb I guess.A day passed by and he pinged me when I was out of office, enjoying a lavish lunch at a nearby restaurant.

I reached office in an hour, and it was time to meet Mr V.I was doing something like this for the first time, so I had laughter fits imagining myself in such a situation.Traditionally, I would be wearing a saree with my head covered with a pallu and carrying a tray with tea-cups and snacks for Mr V and his family members and my mom and dad saying "She has made all those snacks with her own hands for you. She is a wonderful cook".And then, I would offer all those to Mr V and his family, after touching their feet to get their blessings.This thought gave me laugheter fits which were really unstoppable.As I was meeting him in office, there was no family and no tray to carry;-) (Even if I had to meet him at my home, I would have made sure that I am not wearing a saree and neither would I have agreed to carry the tray)

Like a gentleman, Mr V made sure he reached the food-court before me.I saw him standing in a queue to get the coupons for the tea he wanted to have.And that made me go LOL from inside.I was not carrying the tray full of tea cups, rather he was standing in a long queue to satisfy his need for caffine.I liked that.I approached him and he offered to buy me a drink(tea/coffee :P). But, since I am not addicted to any one of those, I politely refused, and added a 'thanks'

We sat in one of those quiet corners,clueless about what should we talk about. Believe me, this was his first time too.And he was as ignorant as I was.Yours truly started the conversation, as Mr V seemed a shy guy.I was able to get him talking, though I was the one who was doing the most of it.Half an hour passed by, and we were just cribbing about the organization we work for, and nothing else. That was the only thing we had in common.

In his spare time Mr V likes to play/watch all kind of sports or try his hands on coding.While, these would be the things I would not do in my free time, even if I am paid for it.He is quiet and takes time to open up, while I can go on blabbering about things, even when I am with complete strangers.Believe me, it is not a bad thing to do as I have made some friends for lifetime because, I am this way!

Soon, it was time to leave.Finally, the laughter fits going inside me subsided.Just then, I saw few of my team-mates coming from the opposite side.Under normal circumstances, I would have come with them, but, here, I was sitting with a guy ,blushing,(for the first time)Later, I told them that he was a friend, who had returned from onsite after a long time.

Not knowing what to talk about next, as we didn't have any common interests, we decided to leave, with an open end.
 

It was funny.I still am giggling thinking about it.

Matchmaking

As if my family was not enough, my friends have ventured into the territory! A few of them have suggested some guys,who,they feel who would be appropriate for me.There is no end to match-making business! Everyone is interesed, you see! :D

Sometimes, I laugh at whatever is happening around me.And sometimes, it makes me sad.Other times I feel a strange kind of numbness towards the whole thing.As if I don't care at all.But I know,I do.This 'not bothered' kind of behaviour is something I pretend, to make others lose interest in finding a match for me.And I hardly ever succeed :(

Suddenly,getting me married has shifted to the top of 'to-do lists' of everyone I know! They have even set deadlines for themselves.The fact that two of my cousins who are younger than me(and supposedly doing nothing after college) are getting married this year, and it increases the pressure you see! So there is a deadline that has been set, plus, there is an increasing pressure to meet that deadline because some-one else in the family is also getting married.Isn't it ridiculous?

Sometime soon, I would be getting a call from one of the guys who thinks I am perfect for him since one of our common friends made him believe this(and even shared our pics with each other) It statred as a teezer but I had never imagined that it would go to this extent.Anyways, strange as life is, it is making me do strange things these days.

'Strange Things' remind me of something that I feel is most ackward about the whole procedure of arranged marriages! Suddenly, you become a model and you have to pose for pics that would be clicked by pros who can change the way you look!A girl next door(desprate to get married) to a supermodel(but, in a traditional outfit) in 30 seconds flat! And not to metion, your skin tone would be lightened by two shades!I have managed to not to fall into this trap and this is one battle I have not lost yet! **Feels Proud and Smiles** :D 


Expecting a call from Mr K(Common friend guy)this week!So,that would give me some more things to blog about!Being the blogger that I am, I am thinking of doing a post on all of these stupid things happening in life!


Maybe, someday, my dream-man would be reading this blog,sitting beside me! **Smiles**

Mr Right, Are You Listening?

Okay, I am sick of this arranged marriage thing now.Six months since the last post here,and life is still no more than a dangling pointer.It seems there is not a guy in this world who fits in my definition of Mr Right.

Some are still Momma's boys, some want their wives to quit her job and serve as a housewife for the rest of her life, some are just 5 inches 5, some earn less than me, some feel that women are their puppets, some are trying hard to lose weight, some say they want to get married only coz their parents feel it is the right thing to do,some believe they are no less than the Prince of Wales,some have a moustache,some are 'kuup-manduks'(frogs who are afraid of taking up new ventures coz they are comfy in the calm waters of their own city or state),some are already 30, some think they are doing a favour to the girl they would marry,some are losers enough to the extent of never having done a thing on their own coz their dads are rich businessmen and there is not a need to create an indentity, some are committed but still meeting other girls coz their parents want them to.

So, all in all, that means, no one for me :( Or am I waiting for someone who doesn't exist at all.Mere khvabon me jo aaye types guy is non-existant or what?

Bas Issi Ki Kami Thi

to Me


Sub: Marriage Proposal


Refer to above mentioned subject. If you are the same then confirm me. Once you confirm you will get all the information and photo of my son to further.



Thanks,
Ramesh Anand 

This is no spam.I have this email in my inbox.And it sucks.I have no idea where this gentleman got my mail id from.I bet you can't imagine how irritating it is to recieve such an e-mail.

A long day at office.Lots of work.I reach home around 8.Rush to get groceries.Come home.Cook food.Eat.Avoid a long chat with mom n dad just to shun any conversation regarding new probable grooms that they would have found today.End the call in 1min 31 secs.Finally connect to the net...AND THIS IS WHAT IS WAITING IN MY INBOX.Who knows I might be getting a chat request from 'RA' tomorrow.

Oh please, if you are thinking that I am over-reacting then spare me and stop reading ahead.Right now.For the time being,this blog is exclusively for capturing my reactions which include cribbing and bitching and everything else that I want to do when I see such things happening to me.All action, (and reactions)would be posted here!So,I hope lots of masala to look forward to in the coming days!

And now getting back to where I was...Mr RA, It seems your son is the new heart-throb of India.And every girl(single and married) is dying to marry him.Even his pics are such a rare commodity that they are not available in stores but would have to be ordered from the manufacturing industry.What a man he must be-an Alpha male for sure! But SORRY, THIS GIRL HERE IS NOT INTERESTED.Alas, you knocked the wrong door,and that too with incorrect english(which is such a put-off).So please, Spare me from any further communication.

On a second thought,I m thinking of replying to this gentleman and asking for pics of his son who seems to be highly in demand.No, I am not mad...just curious abt how HOT he is...And I have this wierd thing in my head to share the pic with you guys! Wt say? Do you people want to see him too? ;-) Let me know through the comments! :D

The Last Lap

"No No No" I shouted. And they agreed, for the time being.And I thought that the chapter has been closed for atleast a year and a half.But I had never imagined that Mr Mruphy,along with his famous law,wasn't going to leave me alone.Soon,it started all over again.Like the phoenix, it rose from the ashes,prepared to attack me from all sides.Poor me. :( But, the fighter that I am,Thank God,I always won!

Slowly and steadily, I got used to these kind of assaults and started believing that they are not a threat(to me,atleast) anymore."Now I am pretty experienced to handle these static syndromes.I know how to tackle these kind of an arguments.I can even write a book and that can help thousands of souls who are harassed in this way, each day".I was overwhelmed by the way I was performing---all those arguments used to die down within minutes.And what an accomplishment it was!

But like all good things come to an end,sooner than what is expected,those accomplishments lead the way to something else...One fine day,I exhausted all the arguments I had NOT to "GET MARRIED AND SETTLE DOWN". Alas, Game Over :( But not yet,maybe, I can call it the last lap.


FYI, This phase of life began three months back.And silly me,never wanted to accept that its happening to me.